When history repeats itself and the event is good and positive, that's fine, but when it is bad or negative it means we're not learning by past mistakes.
Although I agree with this declaration and try to live by it, I am guilty, more often than I'd like, of failing to heed the advice of my own conscience.
This "failure" manifests itself repeatedly in my quest to find someone to love. I'd like to think I am old and wise enough to know better - but clearly that's not the case. The more I deal with women the less I seem to know about them! And when I get it completely wrong I run the risk of losing a friend.
That won't do.
I wonder if there is a comprehensive handbook/manual of some kind or an encyclopedia on the female species mindset on this subject? If anyone knows out there in blogland please let me know.
I have lots of female friends, and when I ask their opinion on these matters, I get differing and contradictive views. I ask because, they being women, are much more likely to know how my prospective and desired thinks.
Here follows the advice from four different friends after each being told the story separately and as accurately as I could muster.
"If I were you I'd look elsewhere - give up"
"If I were you I'd continue and let her know exactly how you feel"
"If I were you I wouldn't give up hope"
"If I were you I'd distance myself and let her take the next step"
Even more interesting is the fact that the object of my desire is known to all four of them.
As Leonard Cohen once wrote, and I quote;
"All the rocket ships are flying through the sky
the holy books are open wide
doctors working day and night
but they´ll never ever find a cure for love"
...or a comprehensive and foolproof handbook