Tuesday, 22 May 2012

A letter to to Isabel - my dearest friend

The other night while we were out with our other friends, you told me you adore me. We hugged tightly and it felt so comforting and right. I adore you too.

You are my most precious friend.

And you know it. I've made it clear on a number of occasions.

We are friends who enjoy each others company immensely. We talk for hours about anything and everything. We share our thoughts and opinions, happiness and sadness in equal measures. We have so much in common.

I  had never had a "real" female friend before you. Only acquaintances and colleagues. Or lovers.

I was under the wrong impression that if I liked a girl enough to be friends with, I would want to take it further - beyond friendship.

I was wrong.  All those wasted years, I was wrong.

Our friendship is undemanding, selfless and unconditional. It has no ulterior motives or hidden agendas. Our friendship is enlightening and rewarding. It is something I treasure and want to keep for ever.

I love to see your huge smile when we greet. Its like you haven't seen me in ages, when in reality we see and speak to each other most days.

I love the way we constantly hug; the way you snuggle up to me. We're so comfortable with each other that some people wrongly assume we are lovers.

Those people are wrong. We are not lovers, we are friends who love each other. And I am eternally grateful for that.

The chains that bind lovers together are made up of fragile links of terms and conditions. Unlike our friendship, which is bound with love, respect and acceptance.

We will never compromise our friendship by becoming lovers. Real unconditional  friends don't turn into lovers just as lovers don't turn into unconditional friends.

Life is so much more fulfilling and balanced by having a true friend of the opposite sex - it's a shame it took me so long to realise it.

Hugs and kisses

Sincerely yours



  1. I've always been so annoyed by the idea that women and men can't be friends. Such a fallacy and perhaps just another way the establishment keeps us all in check - divide and conquer. You and Isabel are very lucky to have each other.

    1. Divide and conquer - You're right there :)

  2. Agreed, in fact I've long since given up that crap we were taught as boys to have male friends and female lovers. Most of my friends are female and I like it that way, we are not lovers, we are simply good friends. I like women..whats not to like.

    1. So true Tempo - what's there not to like? :)

  3. Always good to have friends of both sexes! I do -- and most are VERY good ones!

    1. I wish I had realised it sooner - still, never too late to learn, Momma :)

  4. Nothing wrong with friends of a different flavour.

    1. Different flavour indeed Dicky - I guess no dish would be worth the plate it's on if it only contained one flavour!?